Plan for your Spouse!

Monday, October 14, 2013

I visited recently because I realized that when I pass, I have no funeral plan for my family. I have always been the kind of mother who took care of everything, (like all mothers) and realized that if I was to pass suddenly, there is zero plan or idea of what I would want. By visiting, I began to understand that I can do anything, if I plan ahead. I read stories about people being cremated and sprinkled at their favorite places, people being turned into jewelry and even coolest, and some people being sent to space.
I sat down one night and began thinking hard about who I was and what moments in life encapsulate who I am. I realized my greatest joy was my family and the time we spend together. When my kids were younger, we would always take vacations as a family. We would go on cruises, Disney world, road trips, etc. I knew when I created my plan; it had to be for them, something to remember Mom, not just a sad moment in their lives, at least I hope sad. They always kid with me that when I pass, they are burying me in the backyard and having a party. Aren’t my kids wonderful? J
I made my perfect plan; I would use to purchase a life insurance policy to cover the cost of sending my kids and hopefully by that point, my grandkids on a trip of their choosing, and spread my ashes at the location. I knew that my passing should be a celebration of life and family, not a sad day of crying and bereavement.

Baby Boomers Want to Know: If Life Is a Celebration, Why Not Dying?

Thursday, September 12, 2013


You’d never know it to look at her today, but Letitia Williams was once a proud “hippy” who wore bell-bottom pants and weathered sandals and teased her hair into a tall afro, sometimes just to get a rise out of her peers at a Midwestern college.

Most days, she succeeded. And she was an instructor, not a student. Her persona alone prompted colleagues to murmur their dissatisfaction by labeling her a “radical” during staff meetings. She heard them, and they heard her right back when she exhorted students to protest the Vietnam War in the early 1970s.

Such independence of dress, thought and action cost Letitia dearly: despite her sharp, analytical mind, her insightful knowledge of American and British literature and her skill at turning a poetic phrase, she was denied tenure again and again. No matter that she was also labeled a “prodigy”; her age was often cited as the official reason for the denials. She was in her mid-20s and was told that she was “too young” and “had time” to reapply.

The truth, as Letitia sees it, is that she never stood a chance because she was too outspoken and too black. And now, as much she sometimes hates to admit it, she believes she is now running out of time.

At age 66, and…. click here for more

Baby Boomers Set their Sights on Destination Funerals

Thursday, August 29, 2013


Ed vividly remembers the day he saw the invitation sitting by the phone, his eyes riveted to the words, “Come celebrate with us at our destination wedding.”

Destination wedding? he thought. Don’t all weddings involve a destination, such as to a church and reception hall?

This invitation, from a great-niece, required a bit more mileage: to Mexico, which Ed thought was certainly some sort of joke.

So you can imagine Ed’s surprise when the term “destination burial” first floated past his ears. Not only does he think his wife’s friends are bluffing, but he tosses a ten-dollar bill in the middle of the table. Grabbing a phone book, he opens it to “F” and places a wager: call five funeral homes and ask them; go ahead and ask if they’ve ever heard the term. Maybe then he won’t feel as though he is being set up for a punch line, a folly for another good-natured joke.

The first funeral home answers and promptly puts the call on hold. The second funeral home promises to put the call through to the director—but didn’t specify whether it would happen on the same day. As the minutes tick by on hold, other cell phones are called into action. Time’s a wastin’ when there’s ten dollars on the table... Read more about this eMorial Funeral Planning story

The Effect of Burials on the Environment is Enough to Turn You Green

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

The Effect of Burials on the Environment is Enough to Turn You Green

Joe Romain knows how to paint a nostalgic picture of Sunday afternoon family bliss: Mom and Dad would pack a cooler filled with prosciutto, provolone and Italian beef sandwiches and off the family would go, with a load of toys and sporting goods in tow.

Other family members would be waiting for them, eager to play catch and to catch up on the week’s events. Sometimes, they would savor grilled, herbed tomatoes sprinkled with mozzarella cheese—if only forgetful Uncle John remembered his portable grill.

By sundown, and after passing around several carafes of red wine, the adults would be stifling the giggles as they rolled up blankets and extinguished the coals, for one solemn gesture remained: they would kneel and say a… read more at eMorial Planner Funeral Planning Website.

Baby Boomers Change Everything They Touch

Friday, August 23, 2013

The clear-glass canning jar atop Janet Edman’s refrigerator is halfway filled with quarters.

Call it her penalty jar—the result of her efforts to eradicate the term “retirement community” from the vocabulary of visitors and even family members who dare infer that the tulip-lined haven in which she lives is home to “old folks,” “geezers” and far more offensive monikers that make her tea boil.

To Janet, age 62, twenty-five cents is a small price to pay for such a faux pas. After all, Del Webb’s Sun City in Huntley, Illinois—one of the largest “active adult communities” in the Midwest—caters to the on-the-go, live-life-to-the-fullest Baby Boom generation.

There are about 76 million Baby Boomers in the United States, and Janet is surrounded by a good number of them at Sun City. A Baby Boomer lives in every one of the development’s 5,500 homes.

If visitors don’t notice that this is an “active” environment, then Janet happily points to the evidence: Del Webb includes a golf course, tennis courts, ample walking trails and swimming pools, both indoors and outdoors. A huge lodge features exercise and weight training equipment and rooms for people to indulge an array of interests, from ceramics and sewing to computers and ballroom dancing. Here, activity abounds; people are always on the move, even if they need a nap in the middle of the day to keep up.

In warm weather, many residents putt around on golf carts to get around the community. Her mostly retired neighbors are friendly, appropriately nosey and always planning something: day trips to museums and casinos, night-time Bunco and card games and Janet’s personal favorite: “drinks on the drive,” during which residents bring their lawn chairs to a neighbor’s driveway and drink, snack and….. read more about this story